Why do we always want a little more?

You know those times when we get something and we keep hoping to get just a little bit more? A second helping of that scrumptious chocolate cake, a few more fries with your burger after dancing the night away or just one more sip of your smoothie on a hot summer day, (I love food, hence the food references). To win a little more at a casino or one more kiss goodnight, the list is endless. 

So why is it that we want a little more? I think that sometimes people are in search of something to complete their lives. It’s like when Tom Cruise in the movie Jerry Maguire says I love you. You complete me, to which Renée Zellweger replies Shut up ... just shut up. You had me at hello. It sounds all so romantic, but it is a movie after all. In real life deep down we don’t really want to be fully complete or finished with things, coz if everything is perfect and done what more is left in life!

From the time we are kids we always want more like more toys, on being teenagers we want to be thinner (negative celebrity influences), adult hood warrants a successful career and a marriage. Then maybe kids, bigger house, more cars, time with the family, kids grow older, then we need time away from them, as we grow old we want to be young again only to do thing all over again. Is there a point to all this? I am not sure but maybe there is, this is how humans are designed. Our lives go by and sometimes we have regrets on why we did not do things while we had the chance. 

So here is something to sleep on, if you want more get more (alcohol, drugs and bad things aside), don’t wait around. You are at a buffet and that line near the cocktail shrimps is not going to get shorter, does it mean you should skip on them? Or just be patient and wait in line, if you're smart enough you would get there early and enjoy before the crowd shows up.

I think wanting a little more is not wrong; it is just another form of hope. Hope is what makes the world live another day. Hoping for a better tomorrow or just hoping to nail that midterm. Don't think you are ever to old or young to get that little bit more, we only have one life that I know of! 

It’s time for me to sign off for now, my 40 day old niece isn’t letting me type anymore, maybe just wants a little more attention!

Why do we feel helpless?

I hate those times when things are not in my control. Being the control freak I am, has nothing to do with this feeling of helplessness. It’s like deep down I am becoming hollow. Something is digging a bottomless pit inside me and I am getting sucked inside by the gravitational pull. Every step I take to come up is one breath less that will have, to live. 

This feeling of helplessness is such that no one can help me get out. It something I can’t tell people around me, because how can I not have things under control. For a composed exterior can be very deceiving. Things that brew inside are only a secret between my mind and me.

Why is it that I feel this way? I may not be alone in feeling helpless after all it is a very human quality! There are many reasons why we feel helpless. Some being physical like James Franco’s character in 127 hours. At first he is extremely helpless, he can’t seem to move that boulder no matter how hard he tries, eventually he figures out a way to free himself. Another way in which we might feel helpless is when someone we love is in pain and there is nothing we can do to reduce that pain, in other words emotionally helpless. In my previous post I mentioned there are physical reasons for crying as well as emotional, the same thing applies here.

Getting back to that very feeling of not being able to do something, no matter how hard we try, nothing seems to happen. Its times like this when we might be unable to talk to our family and friends about this, in fear of getting embarrassed or simply not being understood.

And honestly sometimes there is nothing we can to about it, other than wallowing in self pity. It is easy for us to think of things like making a list, prioritizing, aiming for specific goals and so on. These actions are just a little hope we build for ourselves. Nothing really happens over night, especially mental/emotional stuff, slow, steady or fast we may be able to get the upper hand on life. We need to remember this might not be the last time you are going to feel like your world is tumbling down in a million pieces. And every time that happens give yourself time, gaining control may be easy but maintain it, is not (just ask all the famous dictators)! 

Don’t forget, asking for help many a times is very helpful!