Why do we not want to grow up?

This post is dedicated to all those who have kept the fun little kid inside them alive.

At times I think Peter Pan was lucky not having to grown up. I don't know about you, but I have been told the words 'grow up' for years now. There is something about growing up that is just not right. I mean what exactly is growing up, I'm sure there is more than a physical inclination here. I may need to grow up according to 'people', but I have seen others going throw the same annoying request to grow up as me. The difference between me and them for starters I know they have a job, some married and some even have kids and yet are not grown up? This is where the confusion starts, job, spouse/s is and kids to me seem like things grown up would do. Nope, 'people' are not happy with this much. To be a grown up you need to be sad, depressed, stressed out, have your hair turn white, have troubles at the office, arguments with your partner, comment ridiculously about everything on TV, judge people by what they appear to be than who they really are, fake being happy and most important of all not have any real FUN! 

If being a grown up means having the zest of life sucked out of me, I hand in my apology I am never growing up! I will do the things I have to do, live life the way it is supposed to be and enjoy myself.

If life is all about long term future plans, savings, retirement, pension and hip replacement then obviously who would want to grow up? Just remember you can still do that and do things you like, party all night or sleep till noon someday.

I would like to leave you with the words of a famous Indian movie personality Prem Chopra, (not framed exactly)... I have seen the world of grown-ups, it’s not that good, and it is these grown-ups who make me not want to grow up!

Why do we feel helpless?

I hate those times when things are not in my control. Being the control freak I am, has nothing to do with this feeling of helplessness. It’s like deep down I am becoming hollow. Something is digging a bottomless pit inside me and I am getting sucked inside by the gravitational pull. Every step I take to come up is one breath less that will have, to live. 

This feeling of helplessness is such that no one can help me get out. It something I can’t tell people around me, because how can I not have things under control. For a composed exterior can be very deceiving. Things that brew inside are only a secret between my mind and me.

Why is it that I feel this way? I may not be alone in feeling helpless after all it is a very human quality! There are many reasons why we feel helpless. Some being physical like James Franco’s character in 127 hours. At first he is extremely helpless, he can’t seem to move that boulder no matter how hard he tries, eventually he figures out a way to free himself. Another way in which we might feel helpless is when someone we love is in pain and there is nothing we can do to reduce that pain, in other words emotionally helpless. In my previous post I mentioned there are physical reasons for crying as well as emotional, the same thing applies here.

Getting back to that very feeling of not being able to do something, no matter how hard we try, nothing seems to happen. Its times like this when we might be unable to talk to our family and friends about this, in fear of getting embarrassed or simply not being understood.

And honestly sometimes there is nothing we can to about it, other than wallowing in self pity. It is easy for us to think of things like making a list, prioritizing, aiming for specific goals and so on. These actions are just a little hope we build for ourselves. Nothing really happens over night, especially mental/emotional stuff, slow, steady or fast we may be able to get the upper hand on life. We need to remember this might not be the last time you are going to feel like your world is tumbling down in a million pieces. And every time that happens give yourself time, gaining control may be easy but maintain it, is not (just ask all the famous dictators)! 

Don’t forget, asking for help many a times is very helpful!